Fighting for Standards

A friend and I were talking today about me waiting to meet "the one." I think I used the phrase Mister Right :p And yeah, I really want to meet Mr. Right... But I know it's God's timing, not mine. Joking around I said who knows, maybe it's him. And we just kinda laughed about it at first. However, he suddenly turned serious and asked me... Are you willing to fight for it? I wasn't sure if he meant for him or in general. So I asked and he basically said Yes, me... Or the man you love.

I was a bit... taken aback at the question. Not only cause it was partially directed at our friendship, but because it was something I never considered. I assumed the answer, but never thought about it.

So... Am I willing to fight for the man I love. Essentially, am I willing to fight for love?

My answer? a resounding YES!!!

followed by a GIANT BUT

Yes, I'm willing to fight for love, for the man I love... BUT... I will NOT give up my standards. I guess you might not care, this might not be "blog-worthy," but it was an important revelation in my life.

I've sacrificed my standards before, and it's not something I can do again. God created me to be the person that I am, and it is not fair of me to ever Deny that. I can use refining and change in His honor, but giving up some part of who I am so I can be with someone is unacceptable. Absolutely and completely unacceptable.

Does that negate my statement of a willing to fight? You might perhaps say yes... But I don't think so. There is a difference between fighting for love and settling because my emotions override my needs.

I NEED a fellow Christian to be my family's Spiritual Leader

I NEED someone who isn't hours away. I gave long distance one last shot and got my heart broken...

I NEED someone who wants what I want. I can't be with someone who has different goals than me. That just leads to heart break.

I NEED to trust this person with everything.

I NEED someone who respects my desire to save sex for marriage.

That's IT. Why is that so hard for some people? I don't know. I guess because that isn't the world most of us were raised into. But those are my standards... My MUST HAVES... And I'm not willing to give those up anymore. I'm sorry... But I can't.

Beyond that, I'll fight tooth and nail for the man I love, but how can I love someone who asks me to give up any of these? That's just stupid.

Night guys, Thanks for reading! :]